I am so grateful for the support of Brian. And his ability to just "be" without any expectations.
Yesterday, after a challenging day of computer errors, I just needed closeness.
[I had learned from the Coping and Stress Profile, that in some areas of my life, my response to stress is through closeness. Brian's typical coping response is problem-solving and he has learned to adapt to support closeness since learning the degree to which we each use the relationship-based coping skills -- closeness, problem-solving, flexibility and communication].
So we just "hung out." No agenda. No focus. No expectations. I rubbed his shoulder -- he rubbed my head. No sex. Just support through touch.
Its important to have times to "just be" -- to have times for support through touch. It's amazing. So many gay couples overlook this aspect of a relationship. Sure it may happen -- sometimes purposely -- sometimes accidentally -- but its one of the ingredients in the mortar of the foundation of your relationship. Not to be taken for granted.
When was the last time you experienced this? What was it like?
